How (and Why) I Feed My Family with Respect

by Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD on September 30, 2014

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This is The Feeding Diaries, an ongoing series about the feeding escapades in my house.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how the golden rule applies to feeding my family. For me it boils down to R-E-S-P-E-C-T for all.  Mom. Dad. Daughter. And son.

And here’s how it works.

How would you feel?

First consider how you would feel being fed by someone else.  Let’s say you are staying at a friend’s house for about a week. This friend knows you like to eat a mostly vegetarian diet.  But your friend is more of a meat and potatoes person.

You probably would feel bad if every night for dinner your friend only made food you liked knowing their taste in food.  But if all they made were meat-heavy dishes, you wouldn’t be happy either.

But what if two of the nights your friend made an entree you really enjoy and on the other nights she made sure there was ample veggies. This would be nice right? You’re happy and your friend is happy.

But when it comes to feeding kids, the advice centers on two extremes.  One extreme is making a meal you want and have your kids take it or leave it (known less kindly as “eat this or starve”).  The other is to make another meal if they don’t like it (known as short-order cooking) or forgetting the family dinner altogether and just feeding separate meals.

The third strategy  – the one I would feel most comfortable when getting fed — is one that considers the whole clan.

What this looks like in my house

When planning meals, I make sure each person’s favorites show up often enough.  On the other nights, I make sure the sides are something everyone enjoys. This has gotten easier over time as my kids gradually expand their tastes (mostly Big A — Little D is a late bloomer remember?).

When planning meals, I also consider how the little people are growing and learning about food and I try to help bridge the gap, the same way we use training wheels to help children ride a bike.  For example, my kids aren’t ready to eat salads like we do.  So I often modify them in little bowls.  Big A likes to make her own salad sometimes.

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Another example is Big A prefers a breading mix on her fish, so I cut off a special portion for her.

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When we make pizzas or quesadillas, they get a say on what goes in or on top but I put the extras on the side for them to try if they want. And most nights, I serve meals family style, in bowls to pass around where everyone can pick and choose (see table below for more ideas).

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This keeps everyone happy (most nights) and offers plenty of food exposure without the pressure.

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The Golden Rule = Respect

The idea for this post is inspired by what I’ve learned over at Respectful Parent, my new favorite site where a friend of mine blogs.

In Webster, respect is defined as  ”a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way.” In terms of parenting, this means showing children that they matter by how we treat them.  And one key way to treat them well, is to ask our self how we would want to be treated if the tables were turned.

My kitchen table is built around this mutual respect.  And in my house, this has made mealtime more rewarding because most of the time, we all feel good about the simple act of sharing a meal.

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7 Ingredient Granola Bar Recipe (No Bake)

by Maryann Tomovich Jacobsen, MS, RD on September 24, 2014

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I was looking for an easy recipe to make for Little D’s kindergarten class.  On Fridays they have fun centers and when I volunteer they put me at the cooking station.  I wanted to pick something he likes so I thought about making homemade granola bars (he used to call them “rolly bars”). But I wanted few ingredients and I didn’t want to have to bake it.

I was intrigued by this no bake chocolate chip granola bar recipe on Laura’s Latest and decided to try it.  It was so easy and really tasty.  He kept asking for more which is a good sign.  These are perfect for dessert or the occasional snack. Hopefully the rest of his class will think so!

7 Ingredient Granola Bar Recipe (No Bake)
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Serves: 6-8
 

This recipe was originated from the blog: Lauren’s Latest.
Ingredients
  • 2 cups quick cooking oats
  • 1 cup crispy rice cereal
  • ¼ cup butter
  • ¼ cup honey
  • ⅓ cup brown sugar, packed
  • ½ teaspoon vanilla
  • 2 tablespoons mini chocolate chips

Instructions
  1. In a medium bowl add oats and cereal and set aside. Place butter, honey and brown sugar in a small sauce pan over med-high heat and cook until bubbling, stirring along the way.
  2. Turn down heat and cook 2 additional minutes. When done add the vanilla and stir.
  3. Add the heated mixture to the dry ingredients and stir with a spatula until well combined. Press down mixture in a greased small jelly roll pan (I used 8×8 square pan). Top with chocolate chips.
  4. Let stand at room temperature for 2 hours. Cut and serve!

 

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